God designed sexual intimacy for a husband and a wife, for both procreation and pleasure. Through ages, the devil has managed to deceive people into different sexual perversions such as homosexuality, lesbianism, masturbation, bestiality and orgies. The devil knows that this is one of the easiest ways to trick the human mind out of the ways of God because it involves pleasure.
God views sexual intimacy as a sacred act between a couple. God made man in his own likeness. He compares the relationship between Christ and the Church to the relationship between a man and his wife. When we worship God and trust in Him fully, we are committed to serving Him with all of our belongings. In many instances, God referred to idolatry as adultery. God instructed the prophet Hosea to marry an adulterous woman just to demonstrate how hurt he was by the act of idolatry. The more intimate we get with God the more fruits we bear and the more our love grows. Sexual intimacy serves the same purpose in marriage.
What happens when we engage in sexual intimacy outside marriage?
Our bodies are vessels. They are temples of the Holy Spirit. Man is a spirit and the body is just a vessel that carries the spirit. The physical man has desires that defile the spirit in us. When you engage in sexual intercourse with someone else, your spirits are also joined in the act. The more sexual partners you have, the more you are tied to a lot of spirits. Gen: 2:24 A man shall leave his parents and be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh. When you defile your body, which is a temple of the holy spirit, He leaves. When the Holy Spirit leaves us, the devil gets a chance to fight us. This becomes a tough moment and we begin to slide back into sin. The Holy Spirit is our divine help and the moment he leaves us we become helpless. Our prayers become empty chantings and we eventually lose the hunger for God and the strength to pray.
What about masturbation?
Over time the devil has deceived humanity into using other methods and object of pleasure to ‘help’ themselves. He has made sex look like a basic necessity while it is not. He has tactfully used the entertainment industry as well as technology to popularize masturbation. This is not the way God intended it to be. Sex begins in the mind. The devil first tricks your mind into entertaining sexual content such as pornographic films. He then makes you feel as if masturbation is not a sin because there is no other person involved. While other people may not know it, God sees even the sins we do in private. Masturbation is a sign that you have not completely died to the flesh and the spirit of lust still manifests in you.
It is disheartening to see that today’s Christians have embraced gay homosexuality and lesbianism in church. The word of God allows us to call out sin with love and show others the right path. In Genesis 19, we see God destroying Sodom and Gomorrah for this sin. This shows that God deeply recents this sin. God designed sex to be between a husband and a wife.
Is there forgiveness for those who have already defiled their bodies?
Our God is merciful and he forgives those who repent their sins and commit their loves to God. There is no sin too great to exhaust the grace of God.
1 CIRINTHIANS 6:9-11.
In Galatians 5: 19-21
The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery;
5:20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions
5:21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
We see that lust is one of the manifestations of the work of the flesh. As mentioned earlier, the body of a human being is just a vessel that holds our spirit. If the Holy spirit is not in us, the devil takes advantage of our emptiness. For this reason, it is important to involve men of God in case we are unable to free ourselves from sexual sin. Addictions are generally difficult to quit but it is possible. It is a struggle to regain freedom from this sin. The Lord Jesus Christ left us power and authority to cast out every demon.
Is it possible to live a pure life?
It is certainly possible. Some people have the gift of celibacy and they can live a chaste life.
These are those who did not defile themselves with women, for they kept themselves pure. They follow the Lamb wherever he goes. They were purchased from among men and offered as first-fruits to God and the Lamb.
The above scripture shows us that it is indeed possible to completely abstain even from marriage and serve the Lord. It is also assures us that sexual purity is important to God. This is not to mean that marriage is a bad thing. It is in deed a beautiful thing and God created sex for the purpose of procreation.
As Christians, we need to preserve our bodies for the works of the Holy Spirit. One of the ways to do this is by abstaining from sexual activity until we are married. Contrary to popular beliefs, your chastity is not a gift to your partner, it is obedience to God. It also saves you from a lot of sexually transmitted diseases that weaken your immunity and defile the temple of the Holy spirit further. It is the will of God that we may prosper in all our ways.